You guys are smart, right? I could use an objective ear.
I’m conflicted with a situation at work. It’s not a situation that I created, but it’s one I’m now in the center of. Last fall my old boss left and his second in command also left, and a new boss was brought in. The new boss did not have the level of skill of the old boss and also had very different ideas about what my contribution to the company should be.
I’m not any different from most people-I resist change sometimes-and in this situation, our corporate leaders backed me. Our company culture defines my job in a certain way, which has allowed me to enjoy a very nice work/life balance; one that the person I report to generally does not enjoy. Corporate insisted the new boss needed to work within our culture. This led to frustration on the new boss’s part-she was overwhelmed and not able to re-assign my time as she wished. Rather than become a part of a new company culture, she wanted to recreate the culture from her previous position and I became a symbol for everything that was making her unsuccessful in her new position. She’s been vocal about it-with corporate, with new employees, with potential employees, even…It’s a passive-agressive way for her to explain how our company functions.
Long story short, she’s leaving. It was just never a very good fit. I’m happy about that, but I also wonder if I could have made a difference if I had let go of my fear of losing control and jumped into the pond with her. Could I have helped her be more successful? I think I could have and I think I didn’t want to. And I’m not sure how I feel about that. On the one hand, I defended the role I was hired for and have held for a number of years-a role that I took on because it allowed me to put my family first. On the other hand, I let another woman, a mom like me, go down in flames when I could have helped. From a karmic perspective, that doesn’t feel good. I want to resolve this feeling because it’s keeping me up at night and because there will be a new boss replacing this one and if I’m going to approach things a different way, I want to coach myself in advance so I’m ready when the time comes.
What say you?