I’ve been seeing this statement everywhere lately, followed by words of encouragement, criticism or humor. Where did this trend come from? On snarkier days, I stand solidly behind the notion that if you don’t know who needs to hear something, you should refrain from sharing rather than subjecting strangers to your hubris.
However, given the social distancing most of us are (hopefully) engaged in right now, maybe it’s just as good a way as any other to spread positivism.
Once, I was the person who needed to hear something. I was stressed out about some things and not talking about it, as is my wont. My brain was a squirrels’ nest, and the pressure was mounting but I marched on through the motions of work and family, ignoring the squirrels gnawing away up there, not wanting to give negativity too much space in my head. You can guess how that was working out.
One morning, I left my office just off the hotel lobby to speak with the front desk. It’s my habit to scan the lobby area for trash whenever passing through and that day I noticed a piece of paper on an end table. It was folded a couple of times over. I looked around for a possible owner and, not seeing anyone, I opened it, like the Nosy Parker I am.
It said, “It will get better”. That’s it. Just a simple message on a small slip of white paper written in neat script using a blue pen.
I still have that piece of paper. Not only was it the message I needed, it captured my imagination. I’ve thought many times over the years about who wrote it and to whom and for what reason. I’ve imagined a wife tucking it into a worried husband’s suit pocket. Sometimes, it was an encouraging message someone’s mom wrote. Other times I’ve conjured a lonely, weary Road Warrior attempting a self-soothing technique picked up in an online counseling session or a Brene Brown video.
Mostly, I’ve marveled at how the Universe delivers the messages we need when we manage to keep the lines open.
And so, in these disquieting times, I don’t know who else needs to hear it, but my tea bag had this to say….
If you need me, I’ll be at home learning to simplify. And I already know it will all get better.
What messages have you received lately?
Stay safe my friends.